It’s OK to say No
Some people have no problem with “No.” For others, the struggle is R-E-A-L. If you are a member of the latter group, listen up (and don’t say “No” to this!) It’s OK to say NO.
I was about 6 years into my real estate career and I was involved in everything. I chaired committees, led business meetings, held presentations for groups, was a member of civic organizations, helped coach networking groups, mentored newer agents, attended association and networking events, oh – and ran my business. That is not to mentioning trying to have a personal life full of family and friends. I never wanted to let anyone down. If I was asked to help out, I would. If someone needed to step up and lead, I was there. I was exhausted. The other side effect was my attitude. I found myself becoming negative and disillusioned. So what did I do? I agreed to meet with someone to take on yet another role – sound like anyone you know? Well, it was a turning point for me. As I met with this leader, he asked what could the organization do to help me. My answer came out of left field. Here I was, considering taking on yet one more task to fill up my 24 hours and I said, “I need to learn to say ‘No.’” Something wonderful happened at that very moment. I was empowered. I had let the cat out of the bag. I had told the world that I was doing too much and that I couldn’t and didn’t want it to continue.
We all go through times in our lives when we are busy. We run from meeting to appointment to events, to dinner, but at some point, we have to say, enough is enough. We have to learn to say No. My schedule is still full and some would say I take on too much but that’s how I like it, for the most part. However, if I am invited to an event and my calendar is already a sea of color blocks, I decline. We need to take care of ourselves and make sure we are doing what is truly important and/or beneficial to us and our business. Don’t feel guilty if no one will step up to lead the group – that doesn’t have to be your role. Don’t worry that you’re going to lose a client if you don’t drop everything at the last minute and meet with them. Most people understand. Most people will respect you for taking control of your schedule and probably be secretly jealous of the great life you have made for yourself. So, by all means, don’t feel bad for saying No.
I would love to hear your stories or tips on how to say No. Please comment below!
Michelle Froedge is a residential Realtor and Principal Broker in the Greater Nashville and Williamson County areas of Tennessee. Wife to Robert, “Mom” to Tyler and Livvie, Auntie to Zelamie, she is a vegetarian and sings in her spare time. Michelle has lived in Nashville and Franklin since 1997 and has been selling homes since 2004.