Why is Stress So Cool?
Since when is it admirable to be stressed out? I was talking about this phenomenon with someone today. She said she went to a department store to find a prom dress for her daughter. The girl that was helping them told them she was running ragged and that her job is so stressful. The mom is a nurse and she runs ragged and has a stressful job. I told her that I help people with their real estate sales and purchases and that I feel the same way. No matter where we are in life, what our career is, or how old we are, it seems as though we are “lazy” if we don’t have a million things going on.
We go 90 miles a minute without time to ourselves because we are working for retirement where we can sit back, relax, and do nothing. Well, why do we think we have to go, go, go, only to stop? Can’t we slow down? Can’t we ease into it? How about a day off? How about working a half day every once in a while? How about turning off email or our phone when we get home?
To be the perfect partner or spouse you have to provide for the family, spend quality time with them, look like a model and always be in a good mood. To have a successful business we need to read so many books, sit on a board of directors, network constantly and burn the candle at both ends. To be considered for the promotion we have to work late and attend all the after-hours functions with the big-wigs. To have a well-rounded child, we have to have them involved in 3 extra-curricular activities. In order to be awarded the scholarship, we need to take extra classes, excel in a sport, volunteer our time to others and visit 10 college campuses. I may be showing my age but when I was growing up, my parents worked regular hours at regular jobs, were home for dinner, had weekends off to spend with the family and took yearly vacations and our family was not the minority. The current “norm” seems to be everyone running in different directions having to book a Sunday lunch with friends a month in advance.
I am guilty of feeling bad if I take a day off and am out at the park on a Saturday afternoon. I wonder what clients will think if I post pictures from the lake during the week. Why do we feel guilty? We know we need to eat healthy, drink water and exercise so why do we ignore the studies when they talk about rest, down time, and the affects stress has on the human body? We need to get over ourselves. If we want to be successful in our lives, we need time to recharge. What will happen if we say, “no” to the weekend appointment or the boss that constantly asks you to work late into the evening? We may lose the client or we may lose our job. I have lost clients because of a vacation I had planned and guess what? I am still successful! I still have a growing, thriving real estate business. What we might need to weigh, is if losing a little money temporarily is more important than losing our family or our life permanently.
Michelle Froedge is a residential Realtor and Principal Broker in the Greater Nashville and Williamson County areas of Tennessee. Wife to Robert, “Mom” to Tyler and Livvie, Auntie to Zelamie, she is a vegetarian and sings in her spare time. Michelle has lived in Nashville and Franklin since 1997 and has been selling homes since 2004.